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Over the last several weeks, I have been obsessively listening to the late, great motivational speaker, Jim Rohn.
If you’ve never listened to him drop gems of wisdom, please do yourself a favor, and checkout the playlist I created below.
You can check it out here: Jim Rohn Inspiration
He was a farm boy from Idaho, who wrote 17 books, and mentored Tony Robbins, among others.
Sadly, he passed away in 2009.
This is a quote I heard recently, from one of his famous speeches.
The greatest deterrent to success is lack of self-confidence
How insanely accurate is that.
The far majority of society lacks the confidence to chase their dreams, achieve anything and/or live the life they truly deserve.
Sadly, I fell in this trap for years.
Over the last several years, I have made a conscious effort to work on my self-confidence.
It’s like a muscle, and it needs daily work/practice.
Benefits of Being Self-Confident
The benefits of a healthy amount of self-confidence are a plenty.
When you’re self-assured, it’s easier to achieve your goals, others gravitate towards your charisma, and you feel more comfortable in any situation.
Life is easier with self-confidence.
I am not sure if anyone is naturally born with it, as it may seem. I think it’s more of being a product on the environment they grew up in.
For the rest of us, we have to work on it.
Would you likely to quickly boost your self-confidence?
Luckily, this blog post is going to outline a plan for you to follow to do just that.
Implement these simple habits to your daily routine, and you’ll be shocked at how fast your confidence will soar.
7 Habits to Boost Your Self-Confidence
Dress Sharp – Wearing torn, old, or faded clothes can erode your confidence.
Research shows that: You are what you DRESS: Clothing has a significant effect on self-esteem and confidence, claims expert.
You don’t have to spend an enormous amount of money on expensive designer outfits either. I do most of my shopping at TJ Maxx, and have scored some killer deals.
In fact, I have an Under Armour long sleeve t-shirt my Mom got for me, likely at a TJ Maxx as she never pays retail. Not only does it fit really good, it’s made of soft cotton. More importantly, I feel supremely confident every time I leave the house.
As in, I feel a couple inches taller when wearing it. Not to mention the handful of comments I’ve got while wearing it.
You can be frugal when shopping, and still buy nice clothes. The key is how you feel in an outfit.
Think Positive – Each time you notice a negative thought about yourself, switch your focus to something more positive. Negative thoughts drain your self-confidence.
This sounds simple, and it is, it’s also insanely effective.
For example, when the thought crosses your mind about not accomplishing a goal, a great way to counter that shitty feeling is reflecting on what you have accomplished.
How far you’ve come, the obstacles you overcame and setbacks you side-stepped. This is a great way to instantly start feeling better, and you’ll notice the confidence boost.
Speak Slower – I admit, this may seem like a strange way to increase your confidence, but research shows that those who have higher self-esteem talk slower.
Learn to speak slower and pause more often. Your words matter and you don’t have to rush them to express yourself.
People who are not confident in their words or themselves tend to speak very fast.
Volunteer More Often – Volunteering can raise your confidence levels in multiple ways:
- Volunteering can increase your skills.
- It can show you that others value your work and ideas.
- It can also help you understand your strengths and weaknesses.
- It gives you the ability to give back and earn gratitude from others. You’ll feel better and appreciate life more.
Years ago, I served food at the Rescue Mission, a homeless shelter here in Las Vegas.
I left that night, and felt like I was on cloud nine. It was an experience I will never forget.
Such a selfless act, that will instantly boost your self-worth, and self-confidence.
Start a Healthy Habit – A healthy habit such as exercising on the weekends, intermittent fasting or substituting fried food for fruits/vegetables is an excellent way to boost your self-esteem.
You’ll be able to feel confident that you’re following through with your goals.
Recently, I wrote a blog post on healthy habits. These are habits that I do on a daily basis, and the sense of accomplishment at the end of each day/week has boosted my self-worth.
Focus on Your Body Language – Are you scared to raise your head and look people in the eye?
Are you frightened to stand up straight and walk with confidence?
Research shows that our communication consists of 35% verbal communication and 65% non-verbal communication.
Your body language shows the world your confidence – or lack of it.
Mimic strong body language, even if you’re not feeling confident.
By looking more confident, you’ll start to feel this way.
Such a simple life hack than many overlook.
Make Lists – There are several types of lists you can make to increase confidence:
List out your accomplishments. Dig deep and include all of the rewards, ribbons, and other prizes you’ve won. Include things from both the past and present on this list. Hang this list up where you’ll see it often (your office, refrigerator, bathroom mirror, etc) to serve as a constant reminder of how far you’ve come.
The second list is the things that you’re grateful for right now. This list will show you that you have many things in your life that matter and make you happy.
This is one of my daily habits. I write down 5 things I am grateful for every single day, and I try not to repeat any of them. It’s an incredibly difficult exercise after about a week, but you’ll start listing items that you’ve taken for granted. This exercise will show you that you have several things in your life that matter and make you happy.
Without a shadow of doubt, the people who bitch & moan about politics (both sides), could benefit greatly from this healthy habit.
The last one, not really a list, more of a collection. I have been doing this since 2014 or 2015. On my computer, I have a Dropbox folder titled Brag Folder where I keep screenshots of compliments, comments, emails, etc from people over the years.
Here is one I got yesterday about an email I sent out;
Reading that email made my day.
In the online marketing world, people are on a tremendous amount of email lists. As an email marketer, I am fighting for the attention in over crowded inboxes.
Wrapping It Up
If you incorporate these habits into your daily routines, there is no doubt in my mind that you’ll enjoy increased self-confidence very quickly. The longer you follow these strategies, the greater your new-found confidence will grow.
It’s simply a choice that you have to make.
As always, choose wisely.
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